Questions??

My boy has always been full of wonder & lots of questions. I'm used to the constant drilling of questions and 'why's', but yesterday, he caught me off guard. Yesterday was one of the busiest days I've had in a very long time. I ran all day - here, there, back & forth. Considering this, I didn't feel like I had the time - but I guess that was out of my control, now wasn't it? These questions prompted me to have a more detailed 'S-E-X' talk than what we had a month ago.

While shopping for bubble bath at Walmart, Noah wondered to the 'women section' in the pharmacy (you know, near the boxes of pads & tampons) and this is how it began:

N: "Mom, what are these for?"
M: "Honey, what's in those boxes is a private conversation that we can have in the car."
N: "But what KIND of private conversation? Am I in trouble?" (and of course, if you knew Noah he has 2 volumes - asleep and LOUD)
M: "No honey, you are NOT in trouble." Then I whispered in his ear "the private conversation kinda has to do with the 'sex' talk we had a few weeks ago."
N: "Oh, okay"

Now, obviously as we were standing in the check out he was thinking about this conversation considering he was unusually quiet and not asking for any candy. So once we got in the van, he dropped the bomb - the one I was trying to avoid with our sex talk a few weeks ago. We talked about eggs & sperm but I kind of omitted the 'exact' way that the sperm gets to the egg. I explained that husbands & wives have a special way that they cuddle (and I made sure he understood that it was NOTHING like the special cuddles that Noah & I have at night where we talk about our 'hi's & low's' of the day).

A few weeks ago, he was completely FINE with that answer....but not now! Here's how the conversation went:

N: "So Mom, how EXACTLY does the sperm get to the egg?"
M: "Ummm, well - guess what buddy? I have some really great books that we can read when we get home. So let's go home, get your homework done then we can sit and chat, while reading the books."
N: "But, why can't you just tell me now?"

So this is when it all happened. I took a deep breath, a huge 'gulp'. I placed the van in 'park' and in the Walmart parking lot I turned to tell my 7 year, 361 day old son and explained to him the 'real' way that sperm gets to the egg.....AAACH!

I fell like I BOMBED!

The look on his face was unforgettable.

Just imagine this little boy trying to figure out the dynamics of how THAT one works - 8 year old style! First, he said a very quite "eeeeeuwwww" and then the light-bulb moment when he said 'OH, okay NOW I get it'!

Our conversation continued once we got home for 45 minutes about MORE, including what those 'things' were for at Walmart. We looked at the books I had (referred by my blog friend Angel) and after the 45 minutes, Noah said "Mom, can we take a break - this is all so confusing?"

So we did.....

At special cuddle last night, he asked if we could look at some more books and he continued asking questions. I am so proud of his comfort level (at least with me) to talk about this 'grown up' stuff! I can't believe my baby is growing up!




For interest sake, below are the books I ordered. The first 3 are really good (and the ones we used), the 4th one is for when he gets just a little bit older.

The Wonderful Way BABIES Are Made

"Provides parents with a God-centered tool to pass on to their children an attitude of joy and wonder in God's gift of life and sexuality."

Boys, Girls & Body Science

This book is probably the one Noah likes the best - it has 'very' interesting diagrams and drawings!!!

Before I Was Born
(Step 2 in series)

"Before I Was Born explains in age-appropriate language the basics of conception, fetal development, childbirth, and more for children ages 5-8."

All 4 books in this series received Christian Book Awards. Excellent book.

What's the Big Deal?
(Step 3 in the series)

"What’s the Big Deal? explains the basic facts about sex for kids ages 8-11."

We have not pulled this book out yet, I still find some of the information a little to advanced. I am just keeping it tucked away for more advanced questions.







Though we haven't bought these 2 books, they are from the same series as the ones we did by (Step 2&3) so I assume they would be similar in quality.

The Story of Me "lays a spiritual foundation for helping your children understand their sexuality.Designed for children ages 3-5."

Facing the Facts "equips kids to understand and deal with the changes of puberty. For kids ages 11-14. "





My biggest advice (from my experience so far) is BE PREPARED! Make sure you are one step ahead of your child so you can be ready!!!

Good luck!