You know how sweet the sound is, when my comes to me with an issue that he chose ME to talk about with!
Well, it happened this morning.
He confessed his fears about adopting. Right now there are a few, and rightfully so considering the "sting" left from his only other experience with adoption last year. He was so upset that I had been hurt by that situation. He told me that he hated seeing that happen and he was scared this would happen again. *sigh* What can a mama say to this? Her little boy being protective *double sigh*
And of course the other issue, was the thought of having a baby in 'his things'. He asked again if he could have a lock on his bedroom door and I assured him he could. This seems to be a real big issue for him, considering he's talked to me twice about this now! His fear of having a baby in the house is real, and I told him that it was OK to have these fears. He soon compared it to a friend of mine who has a boy Noah's age and an adopted baby girl (thank goodness for your family "L"). He soon realized that it would be really cool to have a little, little sister! This boy "K", embraces his little sister and is very comfortable with her, including soothing her when she was upset. Noah remembered this from our visit this summer!
Christmas is coming and with us talking about saving money for the adoption, he fears that he won't get a Christmas present because we'll save his Christmas money for the adoption! I put his mind at rest and told him that Mommy & Daddy were giving up OUR Christmas gifts to save money this year, not his!
I shared with him that I, too have big fears about welcoming a baby into our family. He seemed very surprised that I had fears too and was comforted by this fact alone.
We talked for what seemed like forever and in the end, Noah began to talk about how excited he was to have someone to share in our family! I'm even more excited now too that he feels so comfortable to voice his deepest fears with me....and what a sweet voice he has!
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